Today, I didn’t have class but I took a nap for 2 hours even though I wasn’t really planning to or even really tired?
So bear with me as I try to figure out how blogging fits into my weird schedule.
So after two weeks, why not dive into the deep?
And by deep, I mean deep. So stay cautious.
I just thought about this a couple of minutes ago but what if one of my friends were to give up?
What if it was the last text, word, I love you… etc?
And I know this is unnecessarily dark but it’s the reality of life at the same time.
It’s the stigmatization that scares us so we never really talk about it.
But I don’t know one of these days, what if that friend who needs our help isn’t just going through a bad page in their book?
I mean I know one of my friends who lost one of her friends to suicide and I never really grasped the subject until now.
So context?
One of my friends, I gave her the name Aikra in the past, on my blog.
Aikra called me yesterday at 2 A.M.
So I asked why she called and she told me she was going through some stuff so I told her to call me after school.
She never called but we texted some.
Then she was supposed to call today and I saw that she posted somewhere that someone needed to drive to her so she doesn’t do something risky.
At this point, I got scared.
I texted her “Are you okay?”
At this point, I wasn’t scared.
Then she said “Yeah I”m fine thanks bby”
But after that text, she sends “Ily”
It’s not weird for her not to spell out I love you, she rarely does. It kinda scared me that she said I love you.
Because isn’t it a pattern for people who are about to do something bad they randomly declare statements of affection to those they love?
So that “Ily” scared me.
Because for the first time I realized, it could happen.
And it literally made my heart sink at just the thought of losing anybody I loved and not being able to be there or they felt like I wasn’t there.
I remember in middle school, maybe. One of my best friends showed a lot of signs of depression. She doesn’t talk about her feelings much or really anything until I or someone else pushes. She’s the type of person to use a safety pin or something to make marks on her wrist (Which she did do once).
She scares me a lot.
Because she gets in her head a lot. Like me, but to a deeper extent. A scarier extent.
So one day I just sat on my floor and prayed to God that she won’t make the decision to take her life. I still need her.
And that moments was years ago.
She’s still here, thank God.
But life is just so precious.
It only takes a second, a millisecond, for things to happen.
Things happen without your control.
Things happen without your say.
And as someone who’s thought about “How would other people feel if I wasn’t here?” numerous times it scares me.
Because what/who scars us, hurts us, throws us, deletes us, bruises us so much we believe the only way out is to ultimately… to be gone?
This is a subject I’m still learning every day about, so I’m going to tread lightly.
But I’m glad I didn’t listen to those wavering thoughts. I’m glad I just cried myself to sleep. I’m glad I just prayed to God.
Some moments, I’m not so glad. I’m not happy about where my path leads. I’m scared of SO MUCH.
But in the end, I’m happy I made it this far.
I am.
And I would feel so broken if someone I love wasn’t happy.
If they thought the only way out was to give up.
I never want to have that feeling again, but I know sometimes I have to drop everything I’m doing to listen to someone who needs me.
And I have no complaints about that.
»Music Friday«
Since I’m slowly starting to revert back to my blog, why not start doing Music Friday’s again. So Music Friday is just when I would share what music I’ve been obsessed with this week.
Let Me Down Slowly – Alec Benjamin ft. Alessia Cara
So I wanted to try something new on my blog: An album review!
Have you guys ever fallen in love with a whole musical album? Like every song contributes perfectly together. There are times when I just listen to an album non-stop for a whole week because it’s that good.
I’d never thought of doing this until I listened to this certain album and I definitely want to do it in the future because it’s fun to talk about the things you love with no filter.
So I’ve been listening to this album since it came out (August 25th) because if anyone knows me they know I love this band with a passion.
The album I’ve been listening to is: Fifth Harmony (self-titled album)
This album is definitely for someone who needs a boost of confidence or just needs an energy lifter. What I like about this album is that it doesn’t sound like thrown-up pop sounds. They are pop melodies but it’s mixed with urban sounds and everything is just cohesive and fits. No song is too jumpy nor is it too soft. They really have improved over the years; they maintained a sound that carries on throughout their whole album.
And they finally had creative control! They got to co-write songs and got involved in the whole process. Their songs really uplift me whenever I feel down. (So, of course, I’m not gonna say anything bad about it) If you’re in your feelings about something: feel whatever you need to feel then listen to this album and you’ll feel so much confident afterward.
Album Review: Fifth Harmony (Keep in mind it is explicit. There are two songs that are explicit: Angel and Lonely Night)
(Keep in mind it is explicit. There are two songs that are explicit: Angel and Lonely Night)
Tracklist:
Down ft. Gucci Mane
(Lol, the funny thing about this is that whenever Gucci says “It’s Gucci” I thought he was saying scooch. And I keep singing it that way)
This is the first song they released after Camila left the band. This is an all-around fun song. You can just turn it on and you immediately jam to it. The vocals go together with all the beats and sounds. I really like listening to the background sounds because the beats aren’t too hard like some pop music these days. The chorus is very infectious but it’s one of those songs that are on repeat for a good reason.
It’s a love song that talks about no matter what you’re gonna love the person. And, Normani (one of the members) said that the group”kind of connect with each other because we’ve been through so much and we’ve always held each other ‘Down’.”
Favorite Lyric: Need somebody with some patience // ‘Cause you know I got a temperament // And yeah, you got a reputation // Nothin’ that a little love can’t fix
He Like That
This is another fun song. We all know there is no male counterpart in my life (and NO I do not need one) but I still like singing along to this song because it’s very catchy. Literally, anything that comes out of the girls’ mouths sounds like heaven to me. But their vocals really have improved and are showcased more. It’s just a fun let-loose song to dance to.
Sauced Up
This is another song where the vocals mix well together with the beats. Also, another let-loose song to just remind you to have fun. Who cares about the consequences? We’re young. Like this is one of those roll down the windows, jamming in the car songs.
Favorite Lyric: We can get sauced up // Forever we’re young, we’ll never get old
Make You Mad
This is the sass song of the century! Lol. I think as teens we care too much about people not liking us for who we are whether it be sassy or loud with a tad bit of (some might say) obnoxious. So it’s like: Oh I made you mad? So what?
With the way the song starts out, you don’t expect the chorus to drop like it does and it’s a very lovely surprise for your ears.
Favorite Lyric: I’m gonna make you miss me // I’m gonna make you go mad // I’m gonna make sure I’m the best you ever had
Deliver
This song definitely has Mariah Carey vibes to it. It is “THE” R&B song on the album. It just takes you back but still manages to keep you in the present. Don’t even get me started on their harmonies throughout it… so beautiful.
Plus, their music video for this is super aesthetic with the black-and-white tones… it’s pleasing to the eyes.
Lonely Night
Aghhhh this is one of my two favorites! It’s such a good song and so relatable at the moment. It’s one of those “feel good” anthems. Especially if you have a person you can picture singing this song too. It makes that situation 100x better.
I love the message. Because in this society, we live in a world where we excuse behaviors of the one we really like. Even if that behavior is super jerky and rude. We excuse it because we think that significant other is our one and only but in this song, the girls are singing, “If you do this, boy it’s gonna be a lonely night for you.”
I especially love the “bye bye” part lol.
Favorite Lyric: If you don’t treat ya mama right, bye-bye, bye-bye // If you got another chick on the side, bye-bye, bye-bye // You look everywhere but my eyes, bye-bye, bye-bye
Don’t Say You Love Me
This song. Oh my gosh, this song. I have no words. Literally. It’s so beautiful. I don’t know what else to say.
The lyrics. Oh my gosh, the lyrics are so relatable. Especially right now. It’s like they reading what’s coming from my heart and singing it in a song.
Their vocals. The emotion. The message. But my favorite part is that it’s not too soft that it messes with the whole vibe of the album, but it still manages to be so emotional and heart-tugging.
Favorite Lyric: (Literally I can’t pick a favorite. I want to put the majority of the song here. But I gotta lol) I need a little bit more // I need a little bit more // You gotta know what it’s like // I know you been here before // I’ve been waiting, I’ve been patient // But I need a little bit more
Angel
I love the chronological order of this album. Lol literally the song prior to this takes your heart out of its chest and puts you in your feelings and then this song reminds you “Nah they’re not worth it. They never got to know the real you.”
The message of this song is important. It’s about how everything starts out cool with someone and then as time passes on you realize they’re not worth it. They never got to know you. They only go to know the perception of you. The “Angel.” When there’s so much more to you.
The beats in this song are so catchy. I especially love the 2nd verse when Ally raps because it makes me want to sing along (as if I could rap).
It just makes your confidence go up 100 times more after the heartfelt song. Like, okay, we needed to get to the feelings and then… Nah you’re so much more than the heartbreak.
Favorite Lyric: Wasn’t tryna spend my life on the phone with ya // Gotta keep it on one hundred with ya // The original me wouldn’t fuck with ya // And I was beginning to fuck with ya
Messy
The message of this song… It’s very true for most girls and boys, pretty much any person in a relationship. How no one is ever perfect when it comes to being in a relationship with something. This song is basically like: “I’m messy. That’s who I am.” It talks about how we’re not perfect but that’s okay. It’s okay to be messy.
Favorite Lyric: I’ll tell you straight how I feel with no filter // No touchin’ up what you see, there’s no filter // I can be cruel sometimes, outta my mind // Insecure and out the door // I am who I am and you won’t have to wonder
Bridges
This is the song the whole world needs to hear. It’s about Trump’s walls and how we should build “bridges and not walls.” This is the perfect way to end the album. I’m so happy they got to be able to write and talk about this. The song is so beautiful and when you hear it you feel so motivated and it touches your soul. The first time I heard this, I cried because it was so powerful and uplifting. Especially at a time like this.
Favorite Lyric: I believe in the beauty of love (hey) // I believe that we really are one // I believe every woman is a fighter // And I believe every man can stand beside her // And I know the world can be cold
We can’t let it divide us // There’s something inside us, a power that grows // There’s something beautiful in the flaws in all we are
This album has really lifted me up when I felt down. I love Fifth Harmony so much because they give me confidence but they also ALWAYS seem to write songs that perfectly describe my feelings then they have the girl-empowerment songs and that’s been the material of their albums. That’s what I admire about them. They never fail to make me feel like I can do anything and be anything.
I know, I knowwww. I said that this Q&A would be up yesterday. But school is literally killing me this week. I decided to get my class schedule changed so that stressed and messed me up a little bit. And I hate to review a whole chapter for Biology and I waited until the last minute and yeah… but here’s the Q&A!
«Music Tuesday (because I haven’t done one in a long time)»
Kabhi Alvida Naa Kehna (Never Say Goodbye) by Sonu Nigam, Alka Yagnik
This song is in Hindi but I made sure to find one in an English translation. I’ve been listening to this song a lot not only because it sounds so nice and lovely but because what it means. A lot of times we say goodbye to people even when we’re not ready. and it’s hard to think that the last time you see someone and say goodbye it’ll be the very last time. This is really beautiful to me for that reason. Not only that but it brings me closer to my culture because I don’t normally listen to Hindi songs or any Indian-based songs on repeat so there ya go… you can listen to this while reading the Q & A. Sound good?
Ana Regina asks: What was the first thing that came to your mind when you realized you got 500 followers?
Nope, not true. Lol. The days before I got it I noticed it was like slowly coming to 500 so the excitement gradually developed as each follower came close to 500. It’s STILL hard to believe. Like 500? I couldn’t even imagine counting up to that number when I was in first grade getting excited over numbers. It’s hard to actually let sink in. 500 human fingers clicking follow. Woah.
Emojis definitely. They can say what you can never type out through a cute lil face. Hashtags are cool and all but there’s tons of pressure in that number sign. I mean hashtags = popularity because you gotta make sure you’re using the popular ones. So definitely emojis. They are no pressure and they’re fun.
Ana Regina asks: If you could choose two singers (any singers) you like to collab on a song, which would them be?
Erghhhhhhh. Just gotta say, I really love this question. Singers? Well… you said singers, not bands so that scratches out my faves *cough* Fifth Harmony. Lol uhmm one would definitely be Shawn Mendes. His guitar skills? And his voice? He’s been one of my faves since like 2014. Then another one would be Alessia Cara. I love her. I love her voice, what she stands for, what she teaches women and little girls, her music… like what’s not to love? (Side Note: If I ever actually, in some distant universe, if I ever did get to collab with them, I would die. Just drop dead. My life would be complete)
Being able to have a voice, most definitely. I get to be able to share my stories, my feelings, my thoughts, me literally on this little blog. I don’t have to hide stuff or bottle feelings. That’s way more than I could ever ask for.
Elm asks: What’s one piece of advice you’d give to someone who feels anxious?
I’ve. Been. There. I know it feels like crap. But just know that something ALWAYS lifts you up out of the hole. I know it’s crap every time going down there but just hold on to that teensy bit of hope that you have. Make self-care journals, meditate, take breathing exercises, write, do what you love, crack into your brain and write down what’s bothering you, etc. I know you’re scared. I’m scared too. But you’re not alone. You’re never alone. Our stories wouldn’t be our stories without an antagonist. Even if that antagonist is our own mind.
ItsSimplyMeJasmine asks: How would your life be now if you didn’t have a blog?
I honestly don’t even know. What if I’ve never even heard of wordpress? Dang. I would probably be abusing my friend’s ears telling them stuff they don’t care about or, most likely, be hiding in my own bottle with my feelings. I honestly don’t know. I feel like it wasn’t meant to happen that way so I can’t even really picture it that way.
ItsSimplyMeJasmine asks: What’s your most favorite blog post you’ve written?
Noooooo… favorites!! Lol this is like asking your parents who their favorite child is (which I pestered my dad about when I was a kid). *Scrolls through posts real quick* Well recently, because I have a very bad memory, my most favorite has been: that time my favorite band dropped a single that described my current situation Because I got to be able to mix music with a personal situation and it was so nice to get it all out there. You know how whenever there’s a new song you hear and you’re like “Wait… this is exactly what I’m feeling because…” And I love finally being able to put the because in words. I was so excited to connect the lyrics to my feelings and share it, that’s why that’s one of my faves.
Ana Regina asks: When was the last time you sang in the shower?
Uhm when was the last time I took a shower? This afternoon? Yep then. Lol I always sing in the shower… is there ever a time someone does not? I wonder…
Erghhh ya got me again. Summer clothes are cute because I like my skirts and finally letting my arms be free (which is amazing to say because I used to be insecure of my arm hair). But winter… I love my winter coat and all my sweaters are like calling out to me from the closet now and beanies. I don’t even wear beanies but I want to wear them now and… I don’t even now. But since it’s cold, I will say winter clothes. Fair, right? Lol
Ana Regina asks: Essay questions or test questions?
To be honest, would it be weird if I say essay questions? Because essay questions usually focus on one thing. Even if it asks to give evidence, examples, etc. it still focuses on one thing. Test questions… they can wrack your brain sometimes. The wording of them is m.a.n.i.p.u.l.a.t.i.v.e. Test questions mentally attack me. I study and they make me feel like I didn’t. I don’t like them. With essay questions, you can not know and just make up random stuff in paragraph form… okay that doesn’t work most (all) of the time. But usually, with essay questions, you can have an inkling of an idea and just go with that tiny spark.
That was really fun! Thank you guys for the questions, I really loved answering them ALL. They really wracked my brain and made me think. And thank you again for 500 followers. I still can’t fathom that. Thank you for supporting me and my words. I couldn’t do this life thing if it wasn’t for this blog… it’s me. And I’m so grateful that so many of you come here or see posts on my reader and support me. It means so much to me. Okay I should go before I start crying lol. Thank you again!
… and it’s freaking me out so much, but in a good way… in a very good way.
So something that has kept me holding on and has kept me happy is the date August 25th because that’s the day my favorite band, Fifth Harmony, is coming out with their album! And today they dropped a song out of nowhere.
It’s like they know me on another level… lol I’m kidding. But coincidence? The day before I took the SAT, they dropped their single. After having shitty feelings for a week, they drop a song on their album. I’d like to think it’s all written in the stars lol.
But when I heard this song, “Angel” it was weird because it took one replay to get all the lyrics and then another one (after the shock of the song) to connect it with my life. Because this song literally speaks out my feelings.
Has that ever happened with you? I know a lot of songs have done that to me and I love that feeling. But this song, it came when I needed it the most.
It says exactly how I feel about Phoenix and that whole situation. After almost a full week of knowing the truth about him and how he feels, this song came out just describing everything I want to say to him . I thought about telling someone because the personal connection literally shocked me… so where better to tell it than my blog?
So here’s the song (but it is explicit, just a warning in case you don’t want to hear that). I’m gonna connect my feelings with the lyrics now.
(The bold lyrics are the ones I can connect with, the italicized ones are just the general lyrics that I can’t connect to- but that doesn’t disregard my feelings to the song) *Slyly switches from first person to second person perspective*
Who said I was an angel? Who said I was an angel? Oh, yeah
I didn’t really connect these lyrics when I first heard the song or even when I saw the song title because why would the simple word “Angel” remind me of you? But then I remembered you used to call me that or some variation of that. I don’t know why, but you used to call me “Angelic legs” (Don’t ask, I DON’T EVEN KNOW lol) and then when I told you I could sing you called me “Angelic voice.” Then on our second hang out, I asked you what excuse you would tell your friends for being late to soccer practice and you said that an angel kidnapped you. It’s weird thinking of it now, I never thought much of your nicknames. But now thinking about it, what made you call me that? I’m far from an angel. Who called me an angel? Oh yeah, you did. But you were wrong. Now that you played me wrong, you’re gonna be proven wrong.
We were just a moment, nothing serious Never really paid it any mind Drop the back side and paying attention
This was your perspective of what we were, right? You barely paid attention. Because if you did notice, all you did would be to hurt me… but I always forgave you because of what I felt. But I can’t do that anymore. Because if you’re not gonna give a second thought about me I can’t give one about you anymore.
Should’ve never not kept your word Woulda had a reason to keep mine You was too inconsistent
I would’ve kept my word. I would’ve followed through with everything I’ve told you… I would’ve if you hadn’t lied about everything you’ve told me. You never kept your word. Not when it came to big out-of-this-world promises, which is understandable. But when it came to small things like when you were going to text me back or when we were gonna hang out, you always left me hanging like a lost kid wondering what I did wrong. You were inconsistent. I kept giving you chances and you showed me so many sides of you that confused me as to who you actually were. If you were gonna be sweet or a full jerk. And you were never one side for too long. I didn’t know what the lie was and what the truth was.
Should’ve never crossed that line with ya
I shouldn’t have. I went into unknown territory thinking that this would make my heart happy. But looking back, I should’ve just stayed where I was.
Everything cool, just drinkin’ with ya
Way too young to be up in handcuffs Wasn’t tryna spend my life on the phone with ya
It felt like I wasted my junior year being controlled by my feelings for you. I wasted so much time when I could’ve been having fun with my friends. I don’t want to be in handcuffs. Then there was this one time you called me back after I called you to ask how much the bus was after our second hang out. I remember as you talked to me I just wanted to stay on the phone longer with you. But you just wanted to know why I called and hung up (not rudely, I mean you said your regular “Be safe” bs) and it felt like we were on the phone for a long time but it was just one minute. If given, I would’ve talked to you on the phone for hours. After I took the SAT, I called you and we had a short conversation, I guess it would’ve been longer if I gave you details about the test and how I felt. But there was this feeling that I was bothering you so I gave you short answers. Maybe there’s a reason I never got my wish of spending “my life” on the phone with you. Because right now, if I hear your voice I might just break. Good thing I deleted your number off my phone.
Gotta keep it all 100 with ya The original me wouldn’t’ fuck with ya And I was beginning to fuck with ya
This is oddly and coincidentally true. Back in freshman year when we were friends, you kinda creeped me out and when the teacher moved our seats you never talked to me again and vice versa. Back then, I didn’t really want to keep ties because I never knew what your intentions were. And now, when I was beginning to be more open with you and warm up my feelings, you pull the rug out from under me. Two years later, and I still don’t know what your intentions are. I should’ve kept the mindset of you that my freshman year self had (no matter how extra and over dramatic she was).
Who said I was an angel? Who said I was an angel? Oh, yeah
When you look at me, what do you see? Open your eyes, I’m more brilliant than you’ll ever be
What do you see when you look at me? I still don’t know. I don’t know what you saw when you played with me and stared at me for mintues trying to “read my soul.” You never told me what you saw. But I know, I’m more than you’ll ever be. I won’t ever play someone like you play/played me.
Who said I was an angel?
Yeah won’t lie, say I don’t lie Yeah, I might’ve told a few lies, yeah Won’t lie, say I didn’t try But you’re only worth a few tries, yeah
I did lie sometimes to you, but only when it involved my true feelings. I could never tell you the truth about how I felt because I didn’t want to freak you out. And I tried. Through my feelings, I tried so hard to be your friend. But you hardly tried. I tried to the best of my effort to be a good friend to you but I can’t keep ruining myself for this friendship. You aren’t worth so many tries that it kills me inside. Where was your effort?
Track star, say that you’re running these streets You ain’t the only one running these streets They’re making grounds like I only wear cleats, yeah
Your ego never hid itself. But it never ruined whatever we had because, in the past, your ego could never come close to how sweet you were to me. So the ego was outbalanced by the sweetness. But with time, the sweetness went away and the way you cared about me changed. You always had this mentality of “I’m stronger than you and I know it. You can’t hurt my feeling no matter how hard you try.” You thought you were the one in charge of this game. And for a while, I let you take control but now it’s time to show you that you’re not the only one “running these streets.”
Should’ve never cross that line with ya Everything cool, just drinkin’ with ya Way too young to be up in handcuffs Tryna spend my life on the phone with ya Gotta keep it all 100 with ya The original me wouldn’t fuck with ya And I was beginning to fuck with ya
Who said I was an angel? (But you was wrong, oh, yeah)
You were wrong about who I was. But I’m not surprised because you never put in that much time to correct yourself and find out who I really am. The fact that you said “I think I know you well enough to know when you’re lying or not” still pisses me off. Because no, you don’t know me that well. And you don’t get to be egotistical enough to think that because you know if I said those exact words to you, you would mock me.
Who said I was an angel? (Oh, I’m no angel, when you look at me)
The next time you’ll see me, I won’t be that angel anymore. I can’t be. I won’t put on a mask for the sake of whatever we had. You hurt me, I’m not gonna belittle my pain because of the way I feel anymore.
When you look at me, what do you see? (What do you see?) Open your eyes, I’m more brilliant than you’ll ever be Who said I was an angel? (Who said I was, an angel?)
Who said I was an angel? (Who said I was an angel? Didn’t know the real me, I’m far from an angel)
Even though you wanted to know the real me and you got some pieces of her, you never got her. Because if you did know the real me, you would know you were hurting me and giving me the worst anxiety. You would know that I”m not this girl with her feelings in check and everything going perfectly for her.
Who said I was an angel? Oh, yeah (Never took the time out, never had time to figure me out. When you look at me)
Like I said before, you never took the time out. If you put in even a little time to care… would that have been so hard? But apparently, it was. You didn’t have time to figure me out. Even though you have this “perception” of me figured out. You think you know me but you’re just making assumptions thinking I’m an angel. Maybe that’s why you keep thinking the way you treat me is okay… since I’m an “angel” I’ll forgive your behavior, right? And you blamed never taking the time out on your tendency to lose focus. I understand that— but when it comes to how crappy you treated me, it’s hard to think it’s all because of that.
When you look at me, what do you see? What do you see? Open your eyes, I’m more brilliant than you’ll ever be Who said I was an angel? (Who said I was an angel? Oh)
That’s one of my favorite songs now. I connected thoughts and feelings I didn’t even know were there but yeah… I was just feeling all that so it all just came out. I might do this as a thing now because honestly, it was amazing getting everything out there. I forgot how that felt. And I literally just thought of a name for it, “Lyric Connection Reflection” It’s a mouthful but I really like it.
But tell me your thoughts, did you like the song? How do you feel about songs that seem to just speak from your heart? Any suggestions?
And some advice to leave you with: Connect your heart and feelings to music instead of sadness. It’ll make you feel so so so much better. Whenever I get a little tug on my heart I listen to music because I know it’ll be able to express my feelings in a way overthinking never can.
And now it’s the finish, the end. Well, not really the end of life or anything but it’s the end of my junior year.
Already? It literally feels like just yesterday the school year started. Okayyy… maybe not just yesterday but when I think of the first day of school I think, “Woah that was 10 months ago?!!?” But when I think about the journey it took to get me here, it D.E.F.I.N.I.T.E.L.Y. does not feel like the first day of school was yesterday anymore.
Honestly, I think this is my favorite year of high school (hopefully, so far) freshman year comes as second, and sophomore year: third.
This school year definitely didn’t start out good. What first day starts out good? But overall, looking back the school year turned out to be good even though I did have my crappy moments.
I made some real friends this year (hopefully). One of my real friends is the friend I made in my chem class. From the moment we met, we literally vibed so much. We could tell each other anything at this point. It’s been so nice to have her there and not only there in that class but there in any situation: she’s helped me figure out my major for college, she helped me with Phoenix, etc. Even once, we had a fire drill and she went to hang out with her friends but she didn’t leave me alone she let me be included with her group of friends and it was just so nice of her. Another real friend was Phoenix. To be honest, apart from the feelings and everything else it really is nice to know that he’s real and not fake. The fact that he wants to know more about me and wants to willingly hang out with me is something I can’t even begin to describe. I made some real friendships with lower classmen and I feel like a big sister to them because I’ve been through what they might be going through school-wise although, they never fail to make me feel old.
I started my hello junior year posts with a breakdown of all the periods and how they all were the first day and I think it should be tradition to say how they all ended. (This focuses around second semester)
Period 1: Piano
Honestly, this class was boring sometimes. There were days where I would just sit in my seat and try to find something to play but nothing. My teacher never really had a lesson plan so everything was freelance. But, I did learn some piano and I’m going to buy piano books to teach myself. I’m still learning “A Thousand Years” and I’m nearing the end of the song. But, this last day it was so cool because the whole class got on a bunch of pianos and we had this jam session and it just sounded really cool. So cool that I wanted to record it but I couldn’t considering my hands were occupied.
Period 2: Modern World
One of my friends from freshman year was in this class and the first day she asked me to come sit near her, but the only seat near her was next to her friend. And it was awkward because her friend was in 2 of my previous classes in the previous years and we never really became friends. So it was me, her friend, then her. But as days and weeks passed I got to know her friend and her more and it was really nice. I actually ended up hanging out with her, some of her friends and my best friend this past week. It was really nice sitting next to those two. They never made one class boring. Even though sometimes I felt like the odd-one-out, overall they both made me really happy. Also after this period my friend and I would walk to our 4th period together and it was always so nice, she would dread about Spanish and I would sometimes dread about AP Language. It was really nice.
Period 3: Photography
At first, this class seemed lonely. Because none of my friends from my old photography class ended up in the same class as me. So it sucked at first. Then we had this photo assignment where we had to take pictures of each other and this girl didn’t have anyone so me and this girl I awkwardly asked beforehand if we could be partners let her take pictures with us. And a friendship started. Then she had another friend and I had friends. I wasn’t lonely. All of them were freshmen and sometimes it was overwhelming because one of my friends always talked about this shitty boy who never deserved my friend but no matter what she always went back to him. Stuff like that pissed me off and sometimes they were rude here and there and on the days where I wasn’t mentally okay I took it to heart. But I know that it doesn’t come from a place of hate. They really truly care about me. When I had strep throat they cared about where I was and that I felt okay.
But the content of the class- I didn’t really like it. The first semester, we were taking these aesthetic pictures with film and everything. My first semester teacher told me we would be more on the computers but I didn’t realize we would be learning more about photoshop than photography. I mean I didn’t mind the photoshop but my second semester teacher focused more on what we did on photoshop than our pictures itself. I just don’t really feel like I learned that much this semester compared to first semester. Plus my second semester teacher was never enthusiastic about things.
Period 4: AP Language & Composition
One of my friends from the previous semester was in this class so it was okay. We talked more this semester than last semester- so that was really nice. My teacher gave us this really inspiring speech about anything that we do should be seen as an accomplishment. Even little things like writing essays or research papers, they should be seen as accomplishments because some people can’t even do that and we should never take our abilities for granted. His class was really hard, I never got an A, always straight B’s and the papers were always hard. But he was a really good teacher and his acting when reading is really awesome.
Period 5: Chemistry
My everyday class. This class was only amazing because I had the real friend (that I talked about earlier) in this class. We both had the same class both semesters so that was honestly so perfect. We never really paid attention and when the test date came we were screwed but each time we made it through. We always made each other laugh because we have the same sense of humor and I can literally tell her anything. Even though chemistry haunted my life, I’m honestly so happy because I got to know such an amazing person (ohh noo I’m getting sappy)
Period 6: Lunch
Lunch was always good. I mean it’s lunch there was nothing exciting about it. But I’m so happy because my best friend and I had the same lunch for both semesters so that was amazing and a weight off the anxiety shoulders.
Period 7: Spanish
UDsafkalsdjfd Spanish. I mean trust me I’m all for speaking another language and learning about the culture. But this class drained me. The class was full of freshmen who never knew the right and wrong time to talk. And the grammar and remembering everything killed me. But I made it through. I actually made friends with this girl that the teacher assigned next to me and she was really funny but through half of the semester, she switched everyone’s seats so that sucked. But, oh my gosh, I actually made it through!
Period 8: Algebr(uh)a Two (Sorry I had to make that joke once in my life lol)
This class was so fun. I mean at first the teacher kinda scared me but she turned out to be so funny. And I sat with 2 people I knew from wayyyy back all the way to elementary school. It was always so fun doing worksheets with them. Even though it’s weird saying work was fun. Doing the work wasn’t fun but doing the work with them and working it out together was fun. We were always cracking jokes and laughing at anything. Lol I think our teacher got mad sometimes but even she joined in sometimes.
So there we go. That’s all that’s happened. From beginning to end. It’s so weird because in my sophomore year… I hated my sophomore year because I felt so alone and lost. That was the year I found out I had anxiety and so many things clicked this year like fake friends and all that. It was just such a bad year for me. But when I compare junior year to sophomore year, thank God that He carried me through. I prayed so much and He didn’t let me down. I don’t feel as lost anymore, or as lost as I was last year. It was horrible last year. But He put constants in my life: people, love, even happiness here and there. The only way I made it through was because God helped me and I had some amazing friends that pulled me through. I wanted to just give up and give in sometimes, but I never did.
I accomplished all I needed to do this year and I can overthink as much as I want but the way things happened, I can’t change them. I can’t do anything but be happy and marvel at the fact that I was able to make it through.
It’s honestly so weird to think that next school year, actually kind of right now, I’m officially a senior… I don’t think it’ll really click until August when school starts again. But I mean WHATSTSSDT???? I remember entering middle school (6th grade) and telling my friends “Woah we’re the big kids now.” And then 8th grade and feeling like the actual big kids considering we were the ones going to graduate. Then 9th grade rolled around and I was honestly so freakishly scared and frightened and everything to be going to high school. And now HERE I AM, about to be a senior. W.h.a.t. Literally, where is the time going?
Sometimes it feels like time goes by so slow, then other times it feels like it’s going so fast that I’m literally chasing it down for it to stop (which is weird because I hardly run). But let me not blow my mind too much thinking about the concept of time because that could last forever (lol get it?… I’m sorry haha).
I get really nostalgic thinking about time and how everything is going by so fast. Sometimes on my dark days, I want nothing more than to grow up, but once I’m there it’s not really what I want anymore. I think of all the goodbye’s and see you soon’s and talk to you soon’s and they’re just tugging at my heartstrings. I thought I would be more relieved but I’m experiencing that feeling of change again. Thinking about the friends who might not have the time to talk to me and how life is only going to be different and harder from here on out. I mean I actually have to think about college and everything. I’m getting anxiety. I just need to breathe and take everything day by day.
Here’s to the end of another year. You made it, Rebecca!
I really hope that if you read my first day and last day it was able to maybe teach you that no matter how anxious the beginning of something can be, the journey of it until the end might seem far away and hard to reach… but you can make it through.
You’re capable of more than you believe. So much more.
«Music Friday»
So all this week I listened to Halsey’s “Hopeless Fountain Kingdom” and it is honestly: so b.e.a.u.t.i.f.u.l. Halsey is such a musical inspiration. Her album is a concept album which means that all the songs on the album hold a greater meaning together than individually. And Halsey said that this album is top to bottom about her being able to love herself after an abusive relationship. It’s so amazing. Plus, it’s like a scavenger hunt. If you check out her twitter you can see her fans figuring out new pieces behind her lyrics and it’s so beautiful that the story can keep being interpreted. (But be warned because there are explicit songs, I don’t know who might be reading this, just making sure I don’t offend young ears).
I hope you all had an amazing week. We made it through another one everyone!
I don’t know what I should be more excited about: The fact that I’m done with the 30 hours of classroom education of driving school (which is why I’ve kind of been inactive for the past 2 weeks) or the fact that it’s finally spring break!!!
I think I’m more excited about the second one, as you might be able to tell from the bold.
So this is kind of a life update, not just a week update. Because of driving school AND school, I haven’t been able to catch up with you guys or myself. How’s everyone been?
So driving school was a lot of work. I had to come home from school, do homework for the 3 hours I have, before going to driving school and coming home at 9. The first week (which was last week) was really tiring because it was the second to last week before spring break so of course, teachers were cramming in tests, quizzes, and essays. Not only because of the nearing spring break but also because the end of the third quarter was coming too.
As of this morning, my grades are actually pretty good, but I’m glad the grade book is closing up. Because, I kid you not, all of my grades are either B’s close to A’s (which frustrates me) or A’s close to B’s (which gives me anxiety, hoping that my teachers aren’t done entering work in). Imagine seeing an 89.0% (B grade)and literally, all you need to get an A is an extra .7% to make it an 89.7% this grading system/school system really pisses me off, but that’s for another post in the near future.
The second week of driving school, I just wanted to get out of there. The teacher noticed I didn’t talk much (thank you social anxiety) so he called me out about it during class and said he would take off participation points (which he can’t do) so that made me feel horrible. But he didn’t mention it again and just let me be so that was okay. But honestly, I’m glad it’s all over. I just need my 6 hours of instructional driving.
In piano class, I had a recital that I was in no way prepared for because I didn’t know what to play. I’ve been learning “A Thousand Years” by Christina Perri but I didn’t learn the whole 7-page song so I thought I would just do a song out of our piano book. But of course, I didn’t learn the book page piece until the day of the recital. Weirdly, I wasn’t anxious about my piano recital the night before, just the moment of it actually happening. So other students went to play their recital before me, and they played half of their songs, so I thought why not do “A Thousand Years?” I mean I’ve memorized the whole first part because I’ve been working on it since maybe November. Of course, my teacher called on me and it was like a minute before the bell rang. Well, my heart was pounding, but, I don’t know, the minute my fingers touched the piano and the sound came out it was like all the anxiety kind of faded away and it was just me and the music. I messed up my last note, but who doesn’t make mistakes here and there?
I went to a college fair as a high school field trip. This was my first field trip since 8th grade lol. It was kind of stressful. If anyone doesn’t know, a college fair is a place where students go to meet 100+ colleges with their booths set up in a reception hall or building. Well, there were 300+ colleges at this fair and there were so many buildings. The guide said there were 3 buildings but it felt like there were 10. (If you think 10 is an exaggeration I was about to say 20) Plus schools from all around the county came, so that’s 20+ schools. And you know what the worst part of it was? We only had 90 minutes. Plus we had to go in this alone. Well not alone alone, I was with my best friend. At first, we were both lost. Lol we actually walked out of one building and then walked into the same building but from a different side. But honestly, having her by my side gave me sanity and she made sure I got to go to the booths that interested me. If she wasn’t there I would just be hiding in a bathroom somewhere. I wish I had more time but I think I got enough brochures from colleges and settled on going to a college close to home or close to my state.
The day before the college fair, my friend literally saved me. I was stressed because I just had a meeting with my counselor about college. And there are SO MANY THINGS you have to do before applying. I mean it’s not just the SAT and a recommendation letter. So my friend helped me narrow down what I should be based on what I want to be and she gave me this website (lol she said that applying for the website was my homework) which will help me narrow down my choices and see where I should go.
Phoenix. I haven’t really been talking about him much. Well, not as much as I used to. I used to give weekly updates on everything going with him. Well, trust me, things are still very much complicated. He’s become a better texter time-wise. Last Sunday, he replied more than 5 times, on. the. same. day. So that helps my feelings. Then this past Monday, he saw me on the staircase at school and he tells me that he wants to hang out with me over Spring Break and we should text each other about it. I don’t really think it’s going to happen because I am still a girl with Indian parents. But, I mean, he really wants to hang out with me? And then he tells me little things while texting me that just make my heart want to explode. He’s doing something to me, I don’t know.
So, while texting, he said that our small interactions (because we barely see each other face-to-face, but sometimes we see each other for a few seconds) make his day. And he likes seeing me and teasing me. I told him that if it makes his day then mission accomplished and I like seeing him too. The teasing could be minimized though but I still like it. Then he tells me that he knew I liked the teasing and I told him I just said that so I wouldn’t sound too mean. And then he said your smile tells me otherwise. I don’t know it’s just things like that…. and then the fact that even though we barely see each other he doesn’t let go like everyone else so easily does. He actually tries in our friendship. I don’t want to ruin a great friendship.
But I mean he’s perfect. He’s perfect for a girl with anxiety. He told me that he doesn’t like parties. We were planning to go to a school play together but he couldn’t go, and he texted me saying that instead of going to the school play we should’ve gone somewhere where we could watch the beautiful sunset. ARE. YOU. KIDDING. ME. Life really isn’t giving me a break. At least give me someone I can d.i.s.a.g.r.e.e. with. Then I told him that my dream one day is to just get away from the city and the people and the loudness and just look up at all the stars and their beauty, how I’ve never seen but a handful of stars and I wanna change that. And you know what he said?? Please, guess. I’ll give you a second.
Did you try? Please at least give it a try?
Ok, I won’t push you anymore. He said finally something great about you (he jokes around with me a lot don’t take this part seriously) that should be our goal for the summer or before the semester ends. We should make it happen. Yep. Yep. Yep. Of course, now it’ll be so easy to convince myself that we’re just friends (catch the sarcasm?) It’s like this past week I’ve just fallen deeper. Literally, the moment after I said I want to move. on. Hello Life, are you listening?
I don’t want to fall deeper. At least I don’t think I want to. I mean yes, he’s a great guy. He says so many sweet things. But he also friend zones me a lot. And I don’t know how much I can read between the lines before I just sdklfjlsdkf (that was me blowing up). And honestly, liking him isn’t good for me. It gives me so much anxiety. Plus, I hate some random girl I don’t even know just because she’s his ex-girlfriend and best friend. What is wrong with me? I didn’t even realize I was so absorbed in this nature of jealousy. I don’t know anything about this girl to hate her, apart from the fact that she was in my biology class last year for one semester, but I didn’t even pay that much attention to her (because if I did it would be weird, she was just another high school classmate) so I can’t even say she’s a bad person. Because she’s not. Yes, it hurts seeing them together but that doesn’t mean I have to hate this girl- which is what I’ve been doing for the past few months. And I hate hating people. I don’t want to hate her just because of my heart.
I just want to focus on myself. I need to. I need to think about who I want to be where I want to go in life. For one second I need to think of my well-being instead of worrying about what others think about me. I need to make sure I feel loved by myself and I’m proud of my own achievements.
This is why I’m excited about spring break. I’m just so ready for a break. I’m ready to destress for a little bit and take care of myself. Today itself, I took a nice shower and painted my nails and watched a movie. That might not seem like much, but it was a lot for me. I took care of myself. I did what makes me happy. I could forget about my worries for a second, and I think that’s all that matters right now.
«Music Friday»
One Time by Marian Hill
I’m so obsessed with Marian Hill. Their music is different from anything I usually listen to, which is why I love it. I first hear about them when they did a song with Lauren Jauregui, from my favorite band. Then I just started listening to that song on youtube in piano class and the autoplay thing on youtube was on and I was too lazy to stop it so I just listened to their music. One of the best decisions I’ve made. If you like this song, you should stream their whole album on Spotify, it gives you chills.
Have you ever grown so comfortable with someone that you saw yourself telling them all these secrets and giving them so much of yourself?
You wanted to further your relationship, you wanted to feel safe with them, you wanted it to last.
But things change. Somewhere along the way, they act differently… they don’t try anymore?
They say all these promises making all kinds of plans for the future. And for a second you, being the doubtful person you usually are, actually believe them for a second. You can actually picture having that road trip with them or simply hanging out with them and going for car rides once one of you gets your license.
But then that fantasy is shattered… because it’s never going to happen. Things have changed.
They have suddenly forgotten all the things they’ve said. Or they remember and they just said them to make you happy or “eased.”
Right now I’m going through these emotions. I’m not 100% sure that this friendship that I have with this guy is actually going nowhere but… he says that he wants to hang out with me, but he hardly wants to talk to me whenever we see each other in the hallway. I mean shouldn’t it mean something to him that we actually seeing each other face to face (because we never see each other anymore)? Does he care?
Sorry that this is so vague, I didn’t really plan to write a blog post about this but it’s just bothering me.
I actually saw myself furthering my friendship with this person, this would be one of the few first real friends I’ve made since freshman year, and I don’t have many real friends.
But, I don’t know, something just changed in the past week. His promises just became like everyone else’s.
I can’t really say much without going into detail…
I was just wondering has anyone gone through this feeling? Of trusting someone so much. So much trust that you felt safe giving them your secrets? But now giving them your secrets feels like a burden or… I don’t know it’s just not the same.
Have you ever had that feeling that a friendship that you have with someone isn’t progressing anymore, it’s just going backwards?
«Music Friday»
Cancer by Twenty One Pilots
song like you By Bea Miller
burning bridges By Bea Miller
i can’t breathe By Bea Miller
I’ve been really obsessed with Bea Miller’s new EP, as you can see lol… her voice is just so raw and her songs are beautiful. Also, I’m still obsessed with Twenty One Pilots I don’t think my obsession with them will ever stop. Hope you enjoy and have a great weekend everyone: we made it to Friday!
hopelesslystrong 